There have been recent rumblings in the stay- at -home mom arena.
Politicians throwing accusations and others responding.
At the same time there was a separate word war among lululemon- yoga- pants -wearing- moms.
With all this controversy and name calling, I felt it necessary to chime in.
Apparently, working moms with an axe to grind, have taken fire at stay -at- home -moms who spend their days in lululemon yoga pants. The attack is not new ground, women have been judging one another for years. With one group blatantly misinterpreting the other. It's and age old debate. After reading a recent blog post, via a twitter link, I felt the need to reply, but only after first googling said lululemon yoga pants. This lululemon war is based on the assumption that stay- at- home moms who spend their days prancing around town in these $98 a pair yoga pants, live a life of leisure. Their days filled with yoga class, pilates, and Starbucks breaks, while their children are in school and their husbands are at work.
That is no one's business but their own. Quite frankly, it's a schedule I would gladly take, if I could afford it.
The problem I have with this war, is that I had no idea these expensive yoga pants even existed. The only yoga pants I have ever owned came from the maternity section in Target, which I wore when I may or may not have been pregnant, whatever. Those yoga pants never once experienced a 'downward dog' or the utterance of a Namaste, as I have never actually taken yoga. I wore them because they were the most comfortable pair of pants I ever owned. They were sweat pants, without really being sweat pants.
The point is, regardless of the clothes one wears, what other women do all day long while their chidlren are in school is their business. And if a working mom is jealous of a stay- at- home mom simply becasue she spends her days in yoga pants, then that mom needs to look within. Change yourself. Petition to change the dress code at work, to include your beloved yoga pants. Or switch careers and become a stay- at- home mom (they're always hiring). Whatever you are disliking about any stuation, let the change begin with you.
Do I make assumptions based on other people's clothing? Absolutely. That's my favorite game to play! The mom I sat next to at my kids' last dentist appointment, dressed in a tennis skirt and ponytail, glued to her iphone, complaininig that her daughter's braids ( she got in Jamaica) were coming out? I totally wrote her story in my head. The moms I see in the school drop off, donning pajama bottoms and be dhead, I may or may not be judging them. The busy looking moms in leggings, running sneakers and Vera Bradley diaper bags I rub elbows with in the clearance aisle at Target? I could tell you how not so leisurely they spend their days, as their carts are filled with more chidlren than products.
But what would people say about me?
The mom strolling through the supermarket on a quiet afternoon, with no kids hanging off the shopping cart, begging for cereal. I would hope they would say, 'that right there is a veteran'. She put in her time and now that her kids are in school all day, she gets to food shop in peace, it's a small reward, but worth it. And those pants she's wearing? I think she snagged them off the $3 rack at JC Penney last week.